Best guide to having orgasms!

Get ready to find out everything there is to know about making sure you have the best time ever...

When it comes to orgasms, it might sometimes take us longer to get there than our men. But our orgasms can be longer, stronger and may even make more than one appearance per session. But, ironically, trying too hard to have one can ruin things.

“Orgasms are lovely to have, lovely to share and lovely to give your man,” says sexpert Susan Quilliam. “But there’s lots of pressure for sex to result in one, which means people often ignore all the fun things that lead up to them. Women have to learn how to come.

“More than 75 percent of women can’t do it through penetration alone. 
“We need clitoral stimulation as well, which means we often need a helping hand.” 
Sexpert Quilliam reveals all the different ways to climax...

1. Pleasure in the clitoris

Stimulation of the clitoris sends waves of pleasure through your 
body. So be sure to pay attention to this area the next time you make love to your partner. Clitoral orgasm is the one most women are likely to have. 
Make the most of this orgasm: 
• Some women like to apply lots of pressure to the clitoris, using fingers (yours or his) or sex toys directly. Others need less intensity. If that’s the case soften the feel by placing a towel between you and the stimulator. 
• When playing with the clitoris, touch the very tip of it as it is packed with sensitive nerve-endings. This will help you get a very powerful orgasm. 
• Use lots of lubrication. as it helps you find your best rhythm and pace.

2. Vaginal spots

Hitting certain areas inside the vagina can make for a very 
pleasurable experience. It might be pressure to your G-spot, A-spot (halfway between the entrance of your vagina and your cervix), or touching your cervix that gets you off. 
Make the most of this orgasm: 
• Not everyone gets pleasure from the same thing, so experiment to discover what area is good for you. See how you feel when stimulated with a sex toy or your man’s penis. 
• Some women find that girl-on-top sex helps them climax, because this 
position stimulates their clitoris as well. 
• Different positions, like him entering from behind or the side, can focus attention on your G-spot, A-spot or cervix. using lots of lubrication to prevent bruising. 
• Try having multiple orgasms on your own first. Experimentation will help you work out how long you need between each one. 
• Mix things up. As the last contract ions of your orgasm fade, get your man to do something different. If you were all about penetration before, switch to oral for a completely new sensation.

3. Manual sex

Most men love it when a woman 
climaxes in front of them. And 
don’t worry about pulling a funny face — manual action will get you both off. 
Make the most of this orgasm: 
• Use one hand for the fun stuff, while using the other to open yourself up a bit so he can see what’s going 
on. 
• Don’t just lie back on the bed, style it out. Try touching yourself in a sexy way while standing up or leaning against a wall. Or turn it into a show by stripping first. 
• Make the most of your man. Straddle him so the tip of his penis is just touching your clitoris. He’s not allowed to touch you, but he will feel your every move.

4. Blended pleasure

Many ladies find being stimulate d in a few different ways at the 
same time is the best way to climax. A mix of clitoral and vaginal stimulation usually works for most ladies. 
Make the most of this orgasm: 
• This is a great time to use sex toys if you are comfortable about using them. You can use a vibrator for penetration, while you stimulate your clitoris with your fingers. Don’t forget to use lubrication while having fun, to avoid hurting yourself. 
• Work on getting your vaginal and clitoral waves of pleasure in sync, doing it until the two feel good together. 
• Your man can get involved as well and give you more pleasure. The more he concentrates on you, the more it will really help to slow him down.

5. Multiple orgasms

It’s one of the reasons it’s amazing to be a girl — once we’ve 
come, we can do it all over again. Timing is everything, though, as you have to space out your orgasms just right to ensure they’re not too intense. 
Make the most of this orgasm: 
• Once you’ve come, have a break, as the clitoris can be incredibly sensitive. Then get back to pleasuring,

THE G-SPOT: 
MYTH OR MAGIC?

The G-spot is real and stimulating. It can lead to great sexual pleasure. says Dr Laura Berman, author of the Sex Bible. This sexy spot is located about 5cm inside your vagina. To find it, insert a finger and hook it towards your navel. \u will find a spongy bump that some women compare to feeling the tip of their nose. 
• You can enjoy your G-spot during sex if you get ‘our man to enter at the right angle. 
• A vibrator is also a great way to make the most of your G-spot.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR MAN’S ORGASM...

• Men’s orgasms happen in two stages. First when he gets excited, his sperm goes to an area near his prostate gland (just behind his penis). Soon after, he hits stage two: ejaculation. Then it’s time for a rest before he can go again. 
• Men experience some orgasms ‘better than others’, reveals Susan Grain Bakos in The Orgasm Bible “If he likes to have his nipples tweaked or bitten during foreplay, do it just as he’s about to climax,” advises Susan.

Premature ejaculation

If your man’s too quick to cross the finish line, don’t panic. This happens to most men at least once. To slow things down: 
• Get him to take a deep breath just as he feels a climax coming. 
• Think of something unsexy to take his mind off the excitement. Try the stop-start technique. At climax, get him to stop, pull out and calm down before entering you again.