Is your guy a cheat?

Young love can be stressful. This article shows you how
to handle a tricky boyfriend

Ahh, you’re young and in love. You have intense feelings for your new boyfriend, who happens to be at the same school as you. You can’t stop thinking about him, you want to call him all day and see him constantly.

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Your world revolves around him. Remember that your first love is always the worst love because you are in it completely. You give it your all, and you are ready to settle down with this guy in the future.

Love plays with emotions

But for girls, these feelings are much worse because we have all these emotions that are tied in with our raging hormones. And when the relationship doesn’t work, your world comes crashing down. You can’t think, eat or sleep. A common reason for these relationships failing is because your guy is cheating on you.

 Now, we’re not saying that all men are the same, but we live in a cruel world where temptation rules. Sadly, teenage girls take their own lives or turn to drugs when they are faced with a cheating boyfriend. So if your man has cheated on you, don’t let that ruin you. Let it be a life lesson and look forward to a happy future.

Be positive

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Your guy was at a party without you and he kissed another girl from your school. That is considered cheating. It hurts to think that you had given this guy your all, and then he went behind your back and cheated.
Now before you break dawn and lose all common sense, take a step back, breathe and think about the situation. It’s okay to cry — it helps
you to deal with the hurt. But once you’re done dealing with the pain he caused you, think about approaching him and telling him what he did. Here’s what you should do:
• Have all your facts in order.
• Remain calm and collected.
• Try not to show him how sad you are.
•Be strong.
• Deal with the situation.
• Don’t let him sweet talk you into still being with him.

Technology

With so many technological platforms available to teenagers today, cheating is so easy. Thami* found strange SMSes on her boyfriend’s phone from a girl who lives in a different province. They had changed pictures and contact details, and had planned to meet later that month.

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Although your guy hasn’t physically done any- thing with this other girl, the motive is there. He has already arranged to meet with her. This, while not physical, is cheating. If you are in a relationship, be weary of things like MXit, Face- book and any other chat sites. -

Golden rules

Being young and vulnerable shouldn’t mean that you have to accept your cheating boyfriend and try to make things work. You should live by the saving: “Once a cheat, always a cheat.” If you remain in the relationship, you are just setting yourself up for more heartache later on. Rather let the relationship go, no matter how hard it is.

Again, it’s not easy, but time is a healer. First of all, let go of all the hatred and pain you feel. It will take some time, but do it for your sanity. Don’t remain friends with your ex — it will make moving on harder. Try to keep yourself occupied.
Spend time with friends and family, and take on extramural activities at school, like joining a drama club or helping out at the school library.

Focus on your future

You are still so young, and have years of life experiences ahead of you. Don’t let this one bad mci- dent ruin what’s to come. These things happen in life to make you stronger and teach you a lesson. There is no point harming yourself or destroying your life over someone else. It’s just not worth it.

Besides, he’s probably enjoying himself and not concerned about you, so why bother about him? You are going to be exposed to so many guys in the future, so don’t think that this guy who cheated is your be all and end all. Your world is hill of opportunities and possibilities. Focus on yourself, your friends, your life, your future.